The Orgasm Gap Is a Political Problem
We talk about the wage gap, the representation gap, the opportunity gap. We do not talk about the orgasm gap — the well-documented, consistently replicated finding that heterosexual women have significantly fewer orgasms than their partners. This is not a personal failing. It is a structural one. And it tells us everything about how we have organized desire.
Desire as Epistemology: What Wanting Teaches Us About Knowing
The philosophical tradition has treated desire as a distraction from knowledge. We argue the opposite: desire is itself a form of knowing — one we have systematically devalued.
In Defence of the Slut: A Reclamation
The word has been used as a weapon for centuries. We are taking it back — not as a badge of rebellion, but as a simple description of someone who has decided their pleasure matters.
Purity Culture Is Not Conservative. It Is Cowardly.
A genuine conservatism would protect the individual from the state. Purity culture does the opposite: it deputizes shame as a tool of social control. This is not tradition. This is fear with a theology.
I Faked It for Seven Years. Here Is What I Learned.
Not because I felt nothing. Because I felt too much and didn't know how to say it. The performance of satisfaction is one of the most exhausting things a person can do. I am done performing.
The Erotics of Attention: On Being Truly Seen
The most intimate act is not physical. It is the act of being genuinely attended to — seen without performance, known without apology. This is what we are really seeking when we seek desire.